Duder is getting obsessed. At night, he will stand on the couch and watch the shadows on the wall. Occasionally, he will attack them and leave slobber all over the place and yes, there are some scratches on the wall (which makes the Blonde a little unhappy). Most of the time it is his own shadow, and he will sit there and stare for long periods of time.
Got me thinking…
Do we chase shadows? Stay with me here… There are events and people in my seemingly long life that sometimes haunt me. I will see something or hear something and one of those events that I do not like will climb into my mind. I think about it. It affects my mood. I get obsessed thinking about it to the point of complete frustration. If someone was watching this happen to me, they would not have a clue why, but they would see that something was bothering me. This is true of people who have been on my bad side in the past. They can still climb into my mind and cause me distress.
Why is this? Why do we let these things control us? But that is exactly what they are doing, they are controlling us.
So, how do we stop this? I do not think there is a simple answer. I do believe that the first step it to at least recognize and acknowledge that this might be happening. When we feel it come on, that is when we try to stop it from the start. Deep breaths and simple meditation techniques can calm you. Then tell yourself that “this is my mind, and I will not let this control me”.
Simple enough right? I tried to teach this to Duder, but alas, he is still chasing those shadows. So, in this case, let’s learn from Duder by not acting like him. Stop chasing the shadows and the things we cannot control or change.
When Duder gets up in the middle of the night and has to go out, it it quite annoying. I put him the back yard and wait. This is him looking in the window with great disappointment. Why can’t I come in?!! This has got to be very frustrating for him. He wants back in, but he has to wait for a bit…
Got me thinking,,,
Are there things in our life that are frustrating but out of our control? Perfect example is butter. I was making toast the other day. Plop some bread in the toaster, get out the butter only to find the butter dish empty. I then have to get out a rock hard cube from the freezer. How are you supposed to butter toast with rock hard butter? (yeah, I know, nuke it for a bit, then it gets messy, etc.. etc..) Frustrating.
Every Saturday, there is a collective moan of frustration across the world for everyone mowing the lawn. I’m talking about the inevitable event of your edger running out of string. You are edging along, then boom, no more plastic string. I usually utter some choice words, whine and complain a bit, then go about the task of putting more in. Not an easy task. I think about everyone mowing their lawn and we are collectively whining about the edger string. I think it disrupts the universe with a massive surge of negative energy.
Duder eventually gets in, the lawn eventually gets finished, and the butter will melt on the toast. How do we control our emotions and not let these uncontrollable events control us? We have things like this all the time and in every aspect of our lives. If they are out of our control; stop, take a breath, evaluate, and respond to the situation. (not react)
Of course, if they are events that are we can control, then take action.
I captured this shot of Duder hanging out the window the other day. He looks totally relaxed. Like someone who just sat down on a beach somewhere and stops to take a deep breath and let the troubles of life flow away from them. Imagine you are in that spot, how do you truly get this relaxed? How do you just throw your arms to you side, lay your head back, close your eyes and just breathe?
Taking the time to Stop and Breath is important for our well being. Life is busy and full of stress. If you don’t release it, it just builds and collects, like dust on your ceiling fan. You need to get rid of it.
Every morning before I begin my work day, I take 5 to 10 minutes and meditate. This is simply me sitting back in my chair, closing my eyes, breathing deep and thinking about nothing. Do everything you can to clear the mind. Once this exercise is done, I am calm and more capable of thinking about my day and everything on the to do list.
Follow the example of Duder. Find the time to just Stop and Breathe.