Category: Family

Attachment and Heartbreak

Last week, the blonde and I took Duder and Daisy out for a walk in the hills by our house.  It is a good place to go, with many trails and they can run ofdaisy2f leash.   On our way back from the walk, Daisy ran out into a dirt road and was hit by a truck.  We did not see it happen, but we heard her cry out.  We ran to where she was, one of her back legs was broken along with other injuries.  She was scared and in pain.  I was able to pick her up, load her into the truck then head straight to the animal hospital.

The scene was very unpleasant, and I do not like to think about it.

Thorough exams took place, options were limited.  Daisy ended up having her back leg amputated.  She is recovering from the surgery and has other injuries that need to heal.  She still has a long way to go.  We are hopeful and encouraged so far.

Got me thinking…

First, why such attachment to a dog?  She is “just a dog” right?  In our case, the answer was no.  She is not just a dog.  Our kids have moved out and these two “dogs” are our next generation kids.  They are with us everywhere we go.  They are part of our family.  The blonde and I are heartbroken that this happened to our little girl.

Second, are tdaisy1here other things in life that we are attached to?  I own a motorcycle and I do have somewhat of an attachment to it.  There are times when I might even think it is part of the family, but the blonde does not, so she makes me keep it outside.  I even had plans to build a ramp up the front porch and park it in the living room.  Would I be heartbroken if something happened to my bike?  Maybe.

Third, what should we truly be attached to in our life?  Is it the objects, like my motorcycle?  Or is it the people in our lives.  I would argue that it should be the people, primarily friends and family.  They are irreplaceable.

So, don’t forget your truly important attachments and let them know.

I have an attachment to the blonde and she has an attachment to me (especially when she is riding on the back of the bike with me.  She is holding on for dear life  😊)


The Family Dogs

2018-02-12_21-47-51The Blonde and I took a week long vacation recently, which required us to take Duder and Daisy to a boarding place.  (I could not get any of my family to take them.  Why no one would want take these two adorable pups is beyond me)  We returned home very late one night and I went to pick up the pups the next morning. During the flight home I was thinking about them.  That night I was thinking about them.  I was getting excited to have them back with us.  I arrived at the boarding place when they opened the next morning.  As expected, they were just as excited to see me as well.  Fun moment.

Got me thinking….

I am nuts???  These are just dogs.  Why I am getting excited like this?

Which then got me thinking…

2018-02-12_21-50-03What is it about our love of dogs?  Dogs are a pain in the butt!!!  Who loves to clean up poop??!!  My backyard is a disaster.  Pee spots.  Most plants have been eaten and dug up.  Planters of flowers have had all the dirt thrown out.  The things they have eaten and destroyed.  The time we spend on them.  The money we spend on them.  Trimming nails.  Painful baths.  Vets.  Counter surfing.  The whining and begging.  Can’t use the bathroom alone anymore.  etc..

So what is it that makes us love them and make them a part of our families?  I honestly do not know if there a single answer to this question.  What I do know is that they will always have unlimited and unconditional love for the blonde and I.  They will always look out for us.  They will always be happy to see us.   These are good attributes for any of us to have.  If we all acted this way, I think we would all find greater happiness and peace in our lives.

So, live your life like a dog, just don’t poop in the backyard.

What is with these girls???


We brought Daisy home a little while ago to join us in our family.  Duder now has someone new to play with.  This was a change for him, everything was different and he had to adjust.  The blonde and I had some adjustments to make as well.  Duder was no longer the king of the castle.  Daisy has taken over as the princess ruler.

One day, Duder was sitting on the chair and Daisy was trying her best to pester him.  He gave me this pleading look of “Dad, what is up with girls?  They are such a pain!!”

Got me thinking…

Girls are a pain.

drinkingfromthebowlGuess I could end there huh??  But let’s explore this a bit.  I love it when the Blonde asks me what I want for dinner.  We all know is doesn’t matter what I want for dinner.   Eating food off my plate.  They take forever getting ready to go.  Always needing to be center of attention.  Shopping (nothing more needs to be said about that).  Chick-Flicks (no, not another one?)  Entire closet just for shoes.

At the same time, girls are our lifeblood.  Let’s face it, we cannot live without them.  They add a wonderful dimension to our lives that evens us out.  Makes us better people with their genuine love of life and people and influence they have over us.

Guys, we need to cherish those girls in our lives, whether they are spouses, daughters, or moms.  Show them the love they deserve.  Take some time to reflect on the good they add to our lives and find true gratitude for them.  Duder has.

A new member of the family


This week, we picked up a new member of our family.  Say to hello to Daisy.  She is a Vizsla, just like Duder.  We are happy to give her a home and new big brother.  We picked her out of a litter of Pups and brought her home.

Got me thinking,,,

Neither Daisy or Duder picked who their owners would be.  They did not choose who their family is.  This is true for us as well.  We all have families and we did not pick any of them.  (maybe a spouse, but not the family that comes along with that)

Duder and Daisy

Oh the fun of families.  I am pretty sure that I am the one in my family that everyone finds the most annoying.  But, they did not pick me 🙂  They are forced to have me 🙂  There will always be aspects of our families that can drive us crazy, or is that just me?  How we choose to react and interact with our family is up to each of us.

Duder and Daisy are happy with us.  They choose to be so.  (simple thought for sure, but true)  We should also find the good in every member of our family and be grateful for having them in our lives.  Learn how to interact with all of them in a manner that is best for them.  This will make life easier for you.

Let’s learn from Duder, if someone from your family feeds you, be happy and lick their face.

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